Caitlyn Harkins is an English sophomore, Mustang Daily copy editor and sex columnist.

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and of course you’ve turned to the trustworthy sex column for advice.

Valentine’s Day is usually offensive to people who just broke up, got divorced, ended their friends-with-benefits deal, are single in general or just don’t like commercialized holidays. And, since every V-Day advice is basically the same — if your partner likes presents and going out, you should probably oblige — I figured I’d go with something a little different.

How to give a blowjob 101.

I’m not saying you should give a blowjob to your partner as a present on Valentine’s Day, your anniversary, his birthday or Arbor Day. The reason being, if your man likes blowjobs, they should be incorporated into your sex life regularly. If you start treating BJs like, well, a treat, then it signals to your guy that you’re begrudgingly doing it for him. No one wants bitter oral.

If you have hangups about blowjobs, as in previous trauma or general disinterest in oral, let your guy know that is the reason why you won’t go down on him. Then, maybe you two can figure out counseling or some other communication so that everyone gets what they need out of the relationship.

Now, down to the dirty details. Blowjobs are best when given enthusiastically and without begging.

Pull your lips slightly over your teeth so that there is no chance of your pearly whites getting too close to his penis. Drop your tongue and take him into your mouth as far as you can go without gagging.

You can train away your gag reflex if you’re particularly sensitive. Each night, practice brushing your tongue further back while brushing your teeth. It sucks at first, but you’ll eventually desensitize your gag reflex. That tip is usually unnecessary for most people, but for the gagger-extraordinaires, it is pretty handy.

But back to the blowjob at hand, which you should use by the way while you’re blowing him. Wrap around the base of his penis firmly and stroke up and down in rhythm to the motion of your head. It may feel awkward at first, but with practice you’ll get into it.

One of the better aspects of a blowjob is the incorporation of the tongue. While you’re down there, swirl your tongue along the head of his penis, or use it to pressure his penis against the roof of your mouth.

Use your other hand to guide his hips. He’ll probably be naturally rocking during the BJ, and you’ll want to be able to control the tempo.

When it comes time for him to, you know, come, you have several options. Swallowing is probably the easiest way to go. Just take his penis all the way into your mouth, and start swallowing as soon as he starts to ejaculate. Doing that ensures you won’t taste his come for very long.

Spitting is fine too, but make sure there is a trash can or bathroom nearby so that you aren’t running around with a mouth full of come looking for a recepticle.

If having any kind of body fluid in your mouth freaks you out, just take him out of your mouth right before he finishes and jerk him off onto your face or other body part. Men are visual creatures and generally enjoy that kind of spectacle.

Then, be prepared for your guy to fall asleep pretty quickly with a giant grin plastered on his face.

Guys, you are not getting off that easily here. There is some blowjob etiquette that you absolutely need to follow unless you never want to get another BJ from your partner again.

First off, hygiene. If you were out in the blistering sun building homes for charity all day, awesome. But it also means your body smells like balls (so just imagine what your balls smell like) if you haven’t taken a shower since then. Keep it clean.

In regards to pubic hair, some women like seeing a thick happy trail leading to a veritable forest. But just as you wouldn’t like getting a hair stuck between your teeth, your partner won’t either. If it’s gnarly, at least trim it.

Don’t guilt your partner into giving you a blowjob, especially if you rarely or never return the favor. Oral is a two-way street that should be frequently strolled upon in both directions.

While guiding your partner’s head during oral seems like a natural response, don’t do it too forcefully or unexpectedly because your partner may accidentally bite down.

Make sure your partner knows that you’re enjoying what they are doing. Moans, groans and other tips from the dirty talk article published last week can easily be done during a blowjob.

And finally, when you hit the point of no return, let your partner know you are about to come. That way, they can be mentally and physically prepared to spit, swallow, let it fly on them or snowball it back to you.

I hope this gives some of you ideas for the next time you fool around with your partner. As always, say your please and thank you’s, and always return the favor!

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172 Comments

      1. You could learn a thing about class yourself. Lighten up. It’s a college newspaper, and this article was handed with as much tack as possible. If you have anything pertinent to share with the world, I’m sure the Daily wold oblige. Unfortunately, you won’t be able to call anyone a slut.

      2. You could learn a thing about class yourself. Lighten up. It’s a college newspaper, and this article was handed with as much tack as possible. If you have anything pertinent to share with the world, I’m sure the Daily wold oblige. Unfortunately, you won’t be able to call anyone a slut.

  1. Who is the girl writing this garbage, and more importantly, has she been tested for STDs? She is trash for posting stuff like this.

    1. You’re absolutely right. No one should be able to talk about sex in a frank manner, especially not a sex columnist.

    2. Your an idiot. Writing a column about bj’s and having an std are two completely different things. There are many girls at our school that have given bj’s that don’t have an std, so you’re just being a dick. Whether or not this is appropriate is another issue, and if you are unhappy with this, go protest, not make a stupid comment online.

  2. Not a big deal, everyone. It’s just a freaken bj. Sorry if you were raised on a white shiny high-horse, but ya’ll really need to chill out.

  3. On one side, I can see why people are “disgusted” or “ashamed”. Sex isn’t really something a lot of people are open about in this kind of manner. On the other side, there aren’t many females who have guts to publish this kind of stuff – the stuff that kind of makes people cringe.

  4. I applaud your courage. I’m not a very sexual person, but I don’t find this column offensive. The more you try to hide sex, the more mystical and desirable it becomes. Recreational sex is not a big deal as long as you put safety first.

    Sex for reproductive purposes is of course a different story, and should not be taken lightly.

    1. It’s not that I think sex should be hidden or not talked about… I actually think having a sex article in the Mustang Daily is a good idea! I do not however think it’s cool to talk about a bj in a vulgar way that honestly is demeaning and offensive to a lot of people. Leave the intimates for the bed, not the newspaper please! (And if for some reason any of this info was new to anybody- go buy a Cosmo!!)

  5. I applaud your courage. I’m not a very sexual person, but I don’t find this column offensive. The more you try to hide sex, the more mystical and desirable it becomes. Recreational sex is not a big deal as long as you put safety first.

    Sex for reproductive purposes is of course a different story, and should not be taken lightly.

    1. Sorry, don’t know why my comment was posted twice. Also, I’m not the same person as “anon”. I’m Anon, see?

  6. Not a big deal, everyone. It’s just a freaken bj. Sorry if you were raised on a white shiny high-horse, but ya’ll really need to chill out.

  7. I love this, but I still don’t know how I can find out to get my partner tested, can you please report about this? Thanks

  8. This woman is a goddess! This article–beyond insightful. On behalf of men everywhere you have endured terrible blow jobs, thank you.

  9. I liked this article! I’m glad that you actually have the balls (unlike some of the men these days) to write and publish an article like this. More power to ya girlie!

  10. Think about it. This article is not far off from the things that are published in Men’s Health Magazine, which is one of the most popular magazines out there. Kids aren’t reading the Mustang Daily either, so nobody has to worry about that. Bottom line, If you don’t like it, don’t read the Mustang Daily. Problem Solved. You’re Welcome.

  11. Don’t let these backwards minded people get to you.
    If they were getting the any sort of oral action, they wouldn’t be nearly as bitter.

    I agreed with pretty much all of your points, and if you relayed them quite eloquently.

    I look forward to your next article.
    Keep up the good work! 🙂

  12. I was going to get a blowjob from my girlfriend but then she read your article and has refused to give me one “on principle.” What principle you might ask? I have no idea. Also all the ladies who are posting shit about your article should post their full names so guys know not to ask them out of dates.

  13. I was going to get a blowjob from my girlfriend but then she read your article and has refused to give me one "on principle." What principle you might ask? I have no idea. Also all the ladies who are posting shit about your article should post their full names so guys know not to ask them out of dates.

    1. Hey Justin, how about you put YOUR full name so all the girls out there will know not to go on a date with you?! If women find this offensive there is a reason. BJ’s are great, but talking about them like this is disrespectful.

      1. Yea! Don’t talk about blowjobs like that. You should be using your lips to suck dick more, not just talk about it.

      2. Yea! Don’t talk about blowjobs like that. You should be using your lips to suck dick more, not just talk about it.

    1. This is called a column. It’s not intended to be news you moron. It’s like a blog. Would you rather send this lovely lady to Egypt so she can write “more important news”?

      I love blowjobs.

      1. The point was, Bro-deo, that this is extremely lowbrow, even for Cow Poly–by ‘the news’ I meant ‘the newspaper’: simply a metonym.

  14. This article is awesome. Not like any of it was new info, but definitely a good read. For those of you bashing, get comfortable with the fact that giving head is sexual and natural. Nothing is wrong with a little pleasure. Next weeks should be about guy’s goin down on girls, bc a lot of them have nooo idea what they’re doing! Keep writin girl!

  15. This was TOO INAPPROPRIATE for a college newspaper.

    1) Caitlyn is NOT a professional columnist (credibility?)

    2) Sex is an INTIMATE subject that should not be shared with the campus and community in a public fashion

    This article is perfect if it was in Cosmopolitan, but Mustang Daily, no!

    I’m embarrassed on behalf of our students and for Caitlyn. Our professors are reading these articles.

    1. You’re right, we shouldn’t assume that college students have the same level of maturity to deal with sexual issues as readers of Cosmo. We need to protect innocent college students from learning how to enjoy their sex lives more!

    2. I’ll bet some of your professors are having sex too! I’ll bet some of your female professors give blowjobs to their husbands or boyfriends!

      Seriously now, are you trying to suggest that professors aren’t capable of reading about blowjobs?

      1. Look, I’m not saying anything against bjs. I’m just saying that this article was innapropriate for this media. There’s a reason why there are ratings on adult movies, and why you have to PAY for magazines with this content. MD is a public, school newspaper. This is innapropriate content.

  16. seriously, you uptight morons saw a head line that said “blow his mind with a classic blowjob” and read the entire thing to comment? wtf?

    if you were so “proper” you would’ve been disgusted by the title and never clicked on the link or you would’ve been disgusted by the title but decided not to comment or post because you wanted to move on quickly to something more appropriate…

    you’re not disgusted. you’re just a judgmental prick trying to exercise power via moral obligation…

    sigh…

    1. couldn’t agree more. who reads an article in the SEX COLLUMN that they’re too uptight to like, then complains about it? ladies, i love you all, im your biggest fan, but if you get upset READING about a blowjob, then you will NOT be able to keep a MAN OF VALUE, who’s worth his weight, happy. get off your high horse, embrace your femininity and get with the program.

      1. I read the headline and I was appalled. I was hoping it was a dumb pun. So when i read on, I was shocked. The content of the article was way worse than the title suggested. This is definitley gonna cause some controversy

  17. Nothing wrong with the article. Obviously it’s not intended to be news, and columns can be just as important as news. Frankly, I’m glad that students are able to talk about sex in an open manner, and I applaud the author for not being afraid to discuss something that makes most people embarrassed. However, I do think it should be questioned whether the Daily is running this article because they think it is good content, or because they want to create a controversy…

    1. Hey SM,

      I’m glad you brought up the question of why the managing editor and myself decided to allow this to run. The most simple answer is because of freedom of speech.

      We really encourage our columnists to express their ideas and we try to refrain from censoring their weekly columns. Would there ever be a time when I would step in and ask her to change her topic? Yes, if her topic censored around illegal activities or suggestions of rape, violence or drugs such as GHB as a means for sexual pleasure.

      When I first heard the topic for Caitlyn’s column, I’ll admit I was a little surprised but never once did the thought of asking her to change her topic enter my mind. Her column is about sex and our strongest readership are the students on campus. Yes, administrators and faculty read the paper and yes, alumni and donors check out the website, but to ignore the fact that sex happens on a college campus would be wrong.

      My intention on allowing her column to be published was never about controversy or shock value. It is regrettable that some students are offended by the content, but we stand behind our columnist and she will continue to run every Wednesday in the paper.

      — Leticia Rodriguez, editor-in-chief

      1. Leticia,

        Glad to hear that it wasn’t run just for the “shock value.” With that information, I definitely support your decision to run the column in the future, and to support your staff’s right to publish content that they feel is relevant to students.
        I don’t think that Caitlyn went overboard with obscenity in the article, so it was totally fine to publish. Yes, it is a shame that some are offended by the material, but isn’t it a newspaper’s job to present all the relevant facts to its audience? Oral sex is definitely a part of college life, and it’s up to the readers whether or not they want to read about it.

      2. Leticia, I’m sorry but you just gave a perfect example as how most Americans use the “freedom of speech” line as a total excuse. I think that MD did not really think about its audience. I think you and the MD staff did not remind yourselves that the MD REPRESENTS Cal Poly, and this column is not appropriate. I consider this as porn and again, I am embarrassed as a student to have this in our paper.

        1. Right on I’m embarrassed free speech comes with responsibility, especially when you’re representing an academic institution full of students who get hired based off the reputation of this school.

  18. Leticia,

    I totally understand why you would let this article run in the MD, because freedom of speech is very important. And I understand and am not surprised the article would be written about BJs. My only problem with it is that it doesn’t really go much deeper than the idea of “sex is great, here’s how you can enjoy it more.” And that is ok for some magazines like cosmo, but as an academic college, how does this article really make us think? Do you think it challenges the reader to really look at maybe the value of a BJ beyond simply that it feels great? Or possible negative things? Or how sex affects a relationship?

    I understand that people like to read this type of stuff, and really enjoy it, but there are a lot of things like that. I know she is a columnist and says what she wants, but doesn’t anyone else feel like the writers should be challenged to go above the cosmo-gossip crap with deeper thinking? I could give you some 7th grade middle schoolers to give you their input on BJs and they could give some ideas too, and people would love to read it, too.

    1. Taylor,

      I think you make a very valid point about going beyond the topic of BJs and how they make a man feel physically.

      I appreciate your input and I will bring this up to Caitlyn for her next column.

      — Leticia Rodriguez, editor-in-chief

  19. Leticia,

    I totally understand why you would let this article run in the MD, because freedom of speech is very important. And I understand and am not surprised the article would be written about BJs. My only problem with it is that it doesn’t really go much deeper than the idea of "sex is great, here’s how you can enjoy it more." And that is ok for some magazines like cosmo, but as an academic college, how does this article really make us think? Do you think it challenges the reader to really look at maybe the value of a BJ beyond simply that it feels great? Or possible negative things? Or how sex affects a relationship?

    I understand that people like to read this type of stuff, and really enjoy it, but there are a lot of things like that. I know she is a columnist and says what she wants, but doesn’t anyone else feel like the writers should be challenged to go above the cosmo-gossip crap with deeper thinking? I could give you some 7th grade middle schoolers to give you their input on BJs and they could give some ideas too, and people would love to read it, too.

  20. Leticia,

    I totally understand why you would let this article run in the MD, because freedom of speech is very important. And I understand and am not surprised the article would be written about BJs. My only problem with it is that it doesn\’t really go much deeper than the idea of \"sex is great, here\’s how you can enjoy it more.\" And that is ok for some magazines like cosmo, but as an academic college, how does this article really make us think? Do you think it challenges the reader to really look at maybe the value of a BJ beyond simply that it feels great? Or possible negative things? Or how sex affects a relationship?

    I understand that people like to read this type of stuff, and really enjoy it, but there are a lot of things like that. I know she is a columnist and says what she wants, but doesn\’t anyone else feel like the writers should be challenged to go above the cosmo-gossip crap with deeper thinking? I could give you some 7th grade middle schoolers to give you their input on BJs and they could give some ideas too, and people would love to read it, too.

  21. Well done Cait. The only thing I would add is “mix it up a little and don’t forget to tease”. Just as it is with a clit, if you stay in one spot it just gets numb and less excited. But if you tease the hot spot and then deliver the pleasure … BOOM, you have Orgasm. That goes for you two guys.

  22. For everyone who is implying that the columnist is overtly promiscuous and immoral—she isn’t. She is a nice girl who addresses topics that are never brought up outside hushed whispers between friends.

    If sex columns aren’t your cup of tea, for religious or personal reasons, then don’t read it. The best thing about freedom of speech is that YOU can IGNORE the person speaking. The article isn’t slapped in your face and it isn’t like the MD is FORCING you to read it.

    And besides that, the columnists DOES say that if you don’t like giving blow jobs that you should tell your partner and keep open communication with them. She isn’t advocating Poly girls to go down on every guy in sight, and actually a lot of the language she uses appears to be geared toward couples in relationships, not one-night stands.

    I thank the columnist for keeping her columns in a casual tone, because sterilizing the process just makes the column dry and feel more like a high school sex ed class than an informative conversation about how to engage in sexual activities in a safe, healthy, and fun manner.

    Though I do wish she mentioned flavored condoms as an alternative to snowballing, spitting, or swallowing. It also lowers the chances of an STI.

  23. For everyone who is implying that the columnist is overtly promiscuous and immoral—she isn’t. She is a nice girl who addresses topics that are never brought up outside hushed whispers between friends.

    If sex columns aren’t your cup of tea, for religious or personal reasons, then don’t read it. The best thing about freedom of speech is that YOU can IGNORE the person speaking. The article isn’t slapped in your face and it isn’t like the MD is FORCING you to read it.

    And besides that, the columnists DOES say that if you don’t like giving blow jobs that you should tell your partner and keep open communication with them. She isn’t advocating Poly girls to go down on every guy in sight, and actually a lot of the language she uses appears to be geared toward couples in relationships, not one-night stands.

    I thank the columnist for keeping her columns in a casual tone, because sterilizing the process just makes the column dry and feel more like a high school sex ed class than an informative conversation about how to engage in sexual activities in a safe, healthy, and fun manner.

    Though I do wish she mentioned flavored condoms as an alternative to snowballing, spitting, or swallowing. It also lowers the chances of an STI.

  24. Since this article is currently drowning in a sea of negative comments…

    To Author and MD Editors: I liked this article. I support your right to publish this article. Please continue publishing whatever you feel is informative, useful or entertaining for your target audience of young adult college students.

  25. I love how angry everyone is, it’s pretty entertaining. WAHHHHHHH THIS ARTICLE IS GROSS, WTF! WAY TO MAKE CAL POLY LOOK BAD
    Come on, really, people outside of the community are reading our school paper? Please

    Kudos to Caitlyn for addressing an issue to a demographic that is likely participating, and is often kept underwraps.

  26. This sex column has been around for awhile and pretty sure this isn’t the first article to discuss a Bj. For that matter I’m sure I could google “how to give a Bj and find plenty of detailed information. So for those of you arguing that this is somehow a groundbreaking article, get a grip on yourselfs.

    Coming from someone who used to help with the writing of the Cal Poly sex column I’m no where close to a prude or someone who can’t handle the vulgar details of a Bj.

    This article is however grossly offensive and the fact that the Mustang Daily has yet to acknowledge this is completely disrespectful. Having a woman write an article encouraging other women to enthusiastically give bjs and telling cal poly women how far to stick a tooth brush down their throats to improve gag reflexes is appalling and te Mustang Daily should be ashamed for publishing such demeaning suggestions. Your brief mention of “returning” the sexual favor is hardly enough to suffice covering the aspect of consensual oral sex.

    I certainly hope no one outside of Cal Poly reads this article because I would be embarassed to be a part of a community that condones referring to women like this.

    1. RM,

      What is “grossly offensive” to some, is not the same to others. Our feeling is that the Mustang Daily is a public forum and Cal Poly is a college campus where such sexual acts are bound to occur. The editors did not “have” Caitlyn write the article, rather she is the sex columnist and this is the topic she chose to write about for the week. Every editor-in-chief of the Mustang Daily chooses how far to allow their sex columnist (should they even choose to have one), to write on certain sexual acts or subject matter. My personal stance is that as long as Caitlyn does not encourage any form of illegal activity, drugs such as GHB or rape, I will allow her to utilize her column as she wishes.

      — Leticia Rodriguez, editor-in-chief

      1. Thanks for the response Letitia. I hope that you, and the writers of the MD can appreciate that the opposition to this column comes from students simply wanting to be fairly represented by the material you publish. I think a sex column is a great way to address the issues of sex on a college campus and I commend you and your team for having the courage to publish articles that addresses these subjects. I also hope that this column will continue being run.

        I do think that as a newspaper you obviously have the right to freedom of speech. However, I think that freedom comes with a responsibility, and part of that responsibility is to consider the demographics of your audience. Many women on this campus are victims of rape, most often by someone they know. Rape isn’t always black and white, and although your article may not have told anyone to go rape someone it certainly implied a lot of acts that many women may feel very uncomfortable doing. As a newspaper addressing issues of sexuality it is very important that you are careful as to the language you use when giving young women advice on how to perform sexual acts. I hope that in the future your paper will make it clear that having sex of any kind should always be consensual and how you want to have sex should always be a personal decision that honors you as an individual.

        1. Where did you pull rape out of this? Or anything non-consensual for that matter? From the article: “Don’t guilt your partner into giving you a blowjob” AKA, if your partner isn’t comfortable with this process, DON’T DO IT. From the article: “If you have hangups about blowjobs, as in previous trauma or general disinterest in oral, let your guy know that is the reason why you won’t go down on him.” AKA, if you aren’t comfortable with this process, DON’T DO IT.

          I don’t know how you managed to connect encouragement of MUTUAL actions to rape survivors, but it’s quite plain you’re willing to use victims of sexual assault for your own gains.

          1. I don’t think this article is encouraging rape by any means but I understand RM’s point. Sure this article does mention making sure both parties consent but that doesn’t really make much of an impression when the rest of the article is giving pressure filled suggestions such as letting a guy come on your face… I mean when you publish an article like this in a college newspaper, obviously a lot of guys are going to like it because most guys love bjs and sex in general. But when you suggest things that many girls feel uncomfortable with but guys are saying is “hot” any girl trying to impress a guy is going to feel pressured to do those things. There is a lot of pressure as a college woman to have sex and live up to our cultures porn star style female image. Having a fellow college woman pressure other girls to live up to this image is disappointing…

  27. I found this column informative but lacking. Where are the tips for guys on how to please a woman? Maybe you could include both his-and-hers advice? Here’s a thanks in advance if you take my suggestion, although you’ll probably be dealing with a lot of critical comments from readers then too. Keep up the (dirty) work.

  28. I thought the article was great Caitlyn—and certainly not “grossly offensive.” You just want to help people have better relationships and sex is a part of better relationships. Why not talk about it?

    Keep it up 🙂

    1. Honestly, I have nothing against the writer of this column and I’m sure she does want to write about sex and healthy relationships which is very cool of her. I just would appreciate it if she would write in a way that respects women and their sexual identity while encouraging healthy relationship/sexual habits. If anything, in my mind the girl who wrote this probably had no idea her writing was going to come off this way… I think her editor is to be held responsible for not giving her better direction on how to approach “taboo” topics such as oral sex.

      1. Your conclusion that this article somehow disrespects women and their sexual identity is completely off base. You’re implying that if we want to learn how to please our partners sexually this is somehow wrong?

        Yes, it talks about how to give good head. But you are suggesting that by giving a blowjob, a woman is disrespecting herself. This article doesn’t objectify women or try to convince skepical women that blowjobs should be a part of their sexual lives. It merely enables those who are already interested to take good advice!

  29. I find some of the comments on this article appalling. Especially the comments that label the author a slut for writing this article. If a man were to be writing the sex column for the Daily no one would call him a slut. Additionally, I applaud the article and the use of gender neutral terms like partner that are more inclusive. I can’t wait to see what the author has in store for her next column; hopefully the future includes an article about cunnilingus. Keep up the good work!

  30. I find some of the comments on this article appalling. Especially the comments that label the author a slut for writing this article. If a man were to be writing the sex column for the Daily no one would call him a slut. Additionally, I applaud the article and the use of gender neutral terms like partner that are more inclusive. I can’t wait to see what the author has in store for her next column; hopefully the future includes an article about cunnilingus. Keep up the good work!

  31. These are exactly the type of extracurricular activities employers are looking for. When would be employers of Caitlyn Harkins check this site to see what type of writing shes capable of and the first thing that comes up is an article about her mad blow job skills, I’m sure they’ll put her resume on the top of the stack.

    1. Ya but her column has probably generated the most comments in Mustang Daily history. So at least people are reading it unlike your Eng 134 papers who i am sure no one has read except for your professor.

      1. It’s actually the second most commented. The Alex Kaplan profile from last year is still pretty far in the lead with 160 comments. But I agree that this article will not likely have any ill effect on her future career. She’s writing a sex column, she chose a sex topic.

  32. These are exactly the type of extracurricular activities employers are looking for. When would be employers of Caitlyn Harkins check this site to see what type of writing shes capable of and the first thing that comes up is an article about her mad blow job skills, I’m sure they’ll put her resume on the top of the stack.

    1. Oh yeah, I’m sure this is the only piece of writing they’ll look at.. with over 100 comments versus all the other articles with 0 comments really says something. It proves that she’s at least capable of sparking interest to get people’s attention.

      1. I get your point, but the reason the number is so high is because of the crappy new layout of the online addition, which has resulted in a slew of double and triple postings. Please fix this, MD. Also, the site was so much better (logically set up and easer to navigate) the way it was. I don’t even want to look at the MD online anymore, and I’m sure a lot of people feel the same way!

        1. Hey Leticia Read Me,

          First — great way to grab my attention. I applaud you.

          Second — We are still working out a lot of the kinks with the new website and that includes dealing with the comments issue (yes, we are aware of it). There are quite a few of double postings, but the majority have been taken off and our Web master has been notified of the issue. I’m sorry you’re not as fond of the new website as you were of the old one. We felt that it was time for some change and not everyone likes change until they can get used to it. The new website has only been up for about a month and a half so give us some time as we continue to work on some issues. If there is anything in particular you would like to see on the website or changed concerning the layout, send me an e-mail. I’d love to hear your opinions and thoughts on how we can improve the website.

          — Leticia, editor-in-chief

  33. I am an Alumni of Cal Poly. I am embarassed by this article. I fully support free speach, but free speach does not mean publishing borderline pornography in a schol newspaper. Editor, do you know what “snowballing” is? It is not appropriate in a school newspaper. Columns about sex are fine, but to write a sensationalist piece with vulgarity throughout is not appropriate. Parents send thier kids to Cal Poly and trust the campus to provide a safe, comfortable environment. I do not think they send their kids to Cal Poly and expect the school newspaper to teach them how to give oral sex and encourage the act of spitting semen from one partners mouth into the others, “snowballing!” The Mustang Daily is clearly trying to hide behind free speach in the process of sensationalism. Shame on MD.

    1. As a parent of a MD student, I applaud them, what happened to Freedom of Speech? As parents we may not always agree with what our children do, but I know we raised our children to be respectful, responsible and to grow to be a good person. As a parent of two Cal Poly students, I feel that they provide a safe environment and if you feel that this arcticle will affect your child then take them elsewhere. I’m sure you’ll be able to find another college where newspapers do not exist and your child does not grow as a person.

    2. As a parent of a MD student, I applaud them, what happened to Freedom of Speech? As parents we may not always agree with what our children do, but I know we raised our children to be respectful, responsible and to grow to be a good person. As a parent of two Cal Poly students, I feel that they provide a safe environment and if you feel that this arcticle will affect your child then take them elsewhere. I’m sure you’ll be able to find another college where newspapers do not exist and your child does not grow as a person.

    3. As a parent of a MD student, I applaud them, what happened to Freedom of Speech? As parents we may not always agree with what our children do, but I know we raised our children to be respectful, responsible and to grow to be a good person. As a parent of two Cal Poly students, I feel that they provide a safe environment and if you feel that this arcticle will affect your child then take them elsewhere. I\’m sure you\’ll be able to find another college where newspapers do not exist and your child does not grow as a person.

      1. So if MD decided to print a column which read "S^&T, F(#K, C)*K, S&*T, F&^K, C$%K," over and over again that would be appropriate due to "Freedom of speech?" Freedom of speach is not a license to distribute inappropriate content in any forum you wish. Freedom of speech only works when it is used hand in hand with what is appropriate. This column is appropriate in Penthouse Forum, which is completely cool with me based on freedom of speech. That is an appropriate venue for the words and mental images in this column. A school newspaper should represent the University in a positive manner. As an Alum, I am embarassed. Give an inch and they take a mile.

  34. As a cal poly alumni I still wander onto the MD website once in a while. What a find this was!! Shame on the commenters who say this doesn’t belong in the school newspaper. Its a sex column! I had sex in college and so did many of my peers. If you can pretend bj’s don’t exist then you can pretend this article doesn’t exist either.

  35. Has anyone checked to see if this is plagiarized from Penthouse or something? Doesn’t sound like something a 19 year old girl would write…

  36. I do not find this piece of writing in line with an academy. If this was about sex health, I would tolerate it, however, this is completely out of line with the academy. This article is literally a depiction of pornography. Obviously, this article was not written with intentions regarding scientific, academia, or medical knowledge. How embarrassing. If any of you who think this is ok to be written and published on our school newspaper, why don’t you upload some pictures of pornography and more specifically pictures of folks give blowjobs to go along?????? There is no difference, if that is the case. You people don’t have any logical reasoning. It is the intention, style of the writing……and come on, this is no academia stuff at all. if you find this appropriate, why don’t you question why your sexEd back in Junior High doesn’t let you watch AV to show you how the sentations and pleasures are like. This article is not even SexEd. This is basically porn in writing. Please get this clear.

    1. Websters Definition of Pornography: “The depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement”

      Note that last part there. Intended to cause sexual excitement. I don’t see any intention to cause sexual excitement in this article. It is intended to instruct and inform.

      1. You say that pornography is intended to cause sexual excitement . Well, you cannot standardize sexual excitement. Perhaps your level of become sexual excited is far beyond this piece of writing, therefore you wouldn’t be affected by this. So lets say, you if you showed me your level of pornography, and I tell you that your piece of pornography does not sexually excite me because I view it as a type of aesthetic and beauty…. And actually, pornography is a material that depicts erotic behavior.

        1. Saying that pornography is anything that excites sexual urges is crazy. Many people are aroused by many weird and unhealthy things. Expanding the definition of pornography to include anything that arouses anyone is completely ridiculous and broad. It would include anything and everything. Pornography needs to actively try to arouse sexual feelings. That does not happen to everyone, although it seems to have had that effect on you.

        2. I don’t think there’s a suggestion that people can become sexually excited by this article, but that it wasn’t INTENDED by the author to cause sexual excitement, as the definition requires.

    2. It’s worth noting that this is a sex column, not a sex-ed column. At no point did the author pretend to be doing anything more than that

      And to address your other point, yes, a sex column does belong in a student newspaper. The sooner that we as a culture can remove the hurtful taboos around sex, the sooner we can move forward into a more accepting, healthy, enjoyable world.

      Kudos to everyone who has ever authored our sex column, you’re doing a service to the campus community and putting yourself out there in a big way. I thank you for your openness.

  37. I do not find this piece of writing in line with an academy. If this was about sex health, I would tolerate it, however, this is completely out of line with the academy. This article is literally a depiction of pornography. Obviously, this article was not written with intentions regarding scientific, academia, or medical knowledge. How embarrassing. If any of you who think this is ok to be written and published on our school newspaper, why don’t you upload some pictures of pornography and more specifically pictures of folks give blowjobs to go along?????? There is no difference, if that is the case. You people don’t have any logical reasoning. It is the intention, style of the writing……and come on, this is no academia stuff at all. if you find this appropriate, why don’t you question why your sexEd back in Junior High doesn’t let you watch AV to show you how the sentations and pleasures are like. This article is not even SexEd. This is basically porn in writing. Please get this clear.

    1. This isn’t a medical journal put out by the school here — it’s a sex column. Try to understand the difference there.

  38. This article is inappropriate. It does not belong in a college newspaper. I support free speech and the content being discussed in a public arena, but it needs to be “within the appropriate context such as the Vagina Monologues, although even VM does not explicitly discuss Bj’s; Orgasms but not BJ’s. This piece is obviously for shock value but it would be better suited for Cosmo or Maxim where one expects to read about the topic. I certainly do not have a problem with someone educating themselves on how to please their partner. Sex should be a pleasurable and sensual experience for both individuals. But it the way the subject is broached that does it a disservice. It is beyond embarrassing for MD and Cal Poly, it is distasteful and more importantly negligent. I wonder what our new President thinks about the caliber of our student body and further, what benefactors will think. I would bet that most parents would prefer for their hard, earned dollars to be better spent on preparing their son or daughter to become young “professionals” who will strive to leave a positive mark on society not contribute to a negative stereotype. Caityln, my feedback for you specifically is that you work to develop a writing style that not only “entertains” but educates and is “informed” on all aspects of the topic before writing about it.

  39. This article is inappropriate. It does not belong in a college newspaper. I support free speech and the content being discussed in a public arena, but it needs to be "within the appropriate context such as the Vagina Monologues, although even VM does not explicitly discuss Bj’s; Orgasms but not BJ’s. This piece is obviously for shock value but it would be better suited for Cosmo or Maxim where one expects to read about the topic. I certainly do not have a problem with someone educating themselves on how to please their partner. Sex should be a pleasurable and sensual experience for both individuals. But it the way the subject is broached that does it a disservice. It is beyond embarrassing for MD and Cal Poly, it is distasteful and more importantly negligent. I wonder what our new President thinks about the caliber of our student body and further, what benefactors will think. I would bet that most parents would prefer for their hard, earned dollars to be better spent on preparing their son or daughter to become young "professionals" who will strive to leave a positive mark on society not contribute to a negative stereotype. Caityln, my feedback for you specifically is that you work to develop a writing style that not only "entertains" but educates and is "informed" on all aspects of the topic before writing about it.

  40. Calm down, you are blowing this way out of proportion. You stated: “…I wonder what our new President thinks about the caliber of our student body and further, what benefactors will think.”

    Are you serious? You believe an article written about blowjobs is going to dampen the school’s reputation? You need to put things in perspective.

    Great job Caitlyn for speaking your mind with an article that most of your intended audience can relate to and possibly learn something from.

    1. You mean like learning how to gag myself with a toothbrush??? SO glad we have the MD to teach us that one! What will we learn next week?? I have an idea! How about MD teaches girls how to loose weight by gagging themselves with tooth brushes!?!

        1. Here is where all of you horny college guys are wrong. It’s actually girls who are good at AND enjoy giving blow jobs that find this article inappropriate. It’s not the sex or the blow job that offends anyone per se… it’s the language used in this article that seems to be promoting a societal image (think non-college educated porn star) that is not the appropriate for a newspaper representing a college campus should be promoting.

  41. Lets not forget that Bill Clinton was a fan of blowjobs by Ms. Lewinsky in the Oval Office. So if you think this article is an embarrassment to our university, then you should be embarrassed by our government

  42. Props for writing and publishing this — like it or not prude commenters, sex a major part of college life and should be discussed openly.

  43. It is not the article in the college newspaper that is so upsetting, it is the fact that in college, the author still does not know what “cum” is. I suppose that speaks to the quality of education, nowadays.

    1. Hi source,

      Although common usage suggests the spelling should be “cum,” I fall in line with columnists like Dan Savage who prefer to spell the word as “come.” In the Merriam Webster dictionary, under the definition for Come, noun, section 2 j, often vulgar: to experience orgasm. Thanks for pointing that out though!

      -Caitlyn, sex columnist and copy editor

  44. The controversy over this article is ridiculous. First and foremost, the article is part of a SEX COLUMN. Considering this fact wouldn’t we assume that the author would write about sexual topics? Oral sex (and sex in general) is a large part of not only college, but life as well. Who cares if it is discussed in a school newspaper? I’ve read worse things written on a bathroom stall in the architecture building.
    For all of you who are offended by this article: please get off of your high horse. The MD has the right to print what they want and you also have the right to not read it! The article is not being forced in your face. Turn the page if it bothers you that much. It’s time to face the facts that we are adults now. With adulthood comes issues that we may not like, but that we can choose to ignore.
    Also, the article is not demeaning towards women. Sure, it might be vulgar for some women’s dainty nature but why do we need to be so proper for tips on something as passionate and primal as sex? As to all the slurs towards the author, give me a break. Just because she is courageous enough to talk about oral sex does not mean she is a slut. I am offended by the judgmental nature of some of the readers. Please, next time you think about commenting on an “offensive” article, go back to the library and spend your time studying. No one cares to hear your thoughts on the matter. A sex column is a sex column. If you don’t like the it then don’t read it. If you read the whole article you obviously were interested in it or else you would have chosen to read something else.
    So Caitlyn, keep writing girl because your articles are entertaining and informative. Exactly what they are meant to be.

    1. http://kinseyconfidential.org/blog/

      Here are some examples of what a REAL sex column article would look like. Sad the Mustang Daily doesn’t understand the principal behind a sex column. The reason this article makes Cal Poly look bad is not that it talks about sex but rather that it embarrassingly fails to actually be a sex column.

      It’s also pretty sad that your own editor doesn’t seem to understand the root of the controversy.

  45. This whole column is disheartening in that it would cover how to give a blow job but not the health risks involved…gonorrhea anyone? Warts, HPV and herpes can also come of a “mind blowing blow job”.
    Any professional and RESPONSIBLE sex/and or health column would list the risks women face with any sexual encounter.
    Start being responsible if you insist on writing these over-the-top articles.

    1. Well, to be fair, anyone who came to Cal Poly through some kind of high school education (at least the vast majority of us) has learned about STDs. We’ve had it drilled into our heads, thank you. We know now.

      What they didn’t teach in high school was how to have a healthy sex life. Reproduction is part of animal life, and as it happens, we are animal life, so it’s in our nature to engage in sexual activity. It’s about damn time someone addressed the question of how to do it well.

      Your puritanical hangups have had their time, but they’ve done nothing for human health, happiness, or safety on the whole. We, and you, need to abandon them and go boldly into a future of openness, acceptance, and exploration in all facets of life, sex most definitely included.

  46. Ok so, i just got accepted to Cal Poly for fall 2011. This is the first article i have read of this Mustang Daily and based on the actual article and the plethora of responses, i am so excited to go to school here!

    1. Thanks so much Joel! The Mustang Daily publishes many outstanding articles, and I’m proud that mine caught your attention. Please keep reading (and commenting!) on not only this column but our others.

      -Caitlyn, copy editor and sex columnist

  47. With “columnists” like this, little wonder California has gone to hell.

    1. Hell is a fairy tale designed to terrify our young into mediocrity and nonentity. It is a threat that aims to make slaves of us all.

      California cannot be going there any more than we’re going to Neverland or Oz. We are, in fact, moving forward. Progress is good, if simply for the fact that it shakes things up. I can confidently say that the state of affairs today in this country, especially in the areas that would have a problem with this article, are disgusting. Our countrymen are banding together to keep down the individual, and you’ve bought into their weapon of mass destruction.

      Abandon your enslavement, own yourself, and join the revolution. Let’s get on with it.

      PS – This is an article about sex. Pretty much everyone does it, and most of those who aren’t wish they were. In fact, look around you, all of the life of which we are aware is doing it. We’re the only living thing capable of stigmatizing our one truly important function. Sex is fun, it’s healthy, just be careful with it and enjoy.

  48. We are all going to hell for this blowjob nonsense. The end is near! 2012! Head for the hills!

  49. Dear Caitylin:

    Maybe, since this publication is so cutting edge, we can get some stuff about 9/11 being an inside job going?

    Maybe an article about how many of the alleged hijackers have turned up alive and well around the world (true), and 2.3 trillion dollars was announced missing by Rumsfeld on 9/10/01 would be good.

    Probably not your forte, but hopefully you can pass the idea along to someone else at the Daily.

    1. ^ This TOTALLY sounds like the topics the newspaper’s sex coloumnist should be writing about. As a matter of fact last time was having a wank I got off to pondering quite enthusiastically about whether or not Obama is actually a Muslim. I do hope my sexual desires for irrelevant political ramblings are included in the next sex advice coloumn Miss Harkins decides to bless my day with.

      1. Dear Joel:

        I asked her to pass it on to someone else on the staff who was more level-headed (not cock-headed).

        I guess you were too busy jotting down blowjob tips to read correctly.

        It’s a sad fact- but there was a packed house when Richard Gage AIA came to Cal Poly- and there was ZERO reporting on it. (He’s an architect who says the official steel building crumbling into nothing story doesn’t make sense).

        Anyway.. I’ve probably filled your blowjob oriented mind with too many thoughts for one day. Perhaps a cool beverage full of alcohol would make things better.

        Anyway Joel.. our country used to be called the USA, America, or the United States. Now we are called the Homeland.

        Let that be a lesson to you young people.

        The Gulf of Tonkin was what got us into Vietnam. It was later proven tobe a faked false-flag incident.

        1. Oh my…you don’t see it? That is part of the cover up! The editor-in-chief of the daily is in on the twin towers conspiracy and rejected the article from the newspaper, without the coverage…no one will ever know the truth!

          What do you hope to accomplish with this, seriously? Do you except Obama to take the stand and say “Yes Mrs. Murple, Yes Mr. Gage, Yes War veterans, yes students, yes die hard slightly racist patriots who accuse me of being satan, yes creepy conspirators, yes it’s true the United States set up everything. We blew up our own towers because SOMEBODY missplaced $10 bazillion dollars. We faked some stuffs and got you all to fight and die in Vietnam. We tortured people, we lied about just about everything regading Iraq. George W. Bush is really a reptilian king, didn’t you play Super Mario? George Washington was in fact Illuminati and Abraham Lincoln was also a Vampire Hunter. Aliens made Mt. Rushmore and your cellphone is a tracking devce. While im on the topic our HAARP weather machine is responsible for all the most recent natural disasters. Go America, we manipulate and control everything to our divine will. Just thought I would get that off my chest.”
          And THEN what?
          What would be accomplished by the unveiling of these grandeour cover ups? What good could come out of it? We are in a social contract with the government of the United States to abolish said government should the instance arise where they do actually pull off some shady shit like that.
          Is that what you would like? The dismemberment of the United States? Maybe some total anarachy would whip this continent right back up to speed.
          Nothing would be solved. Especially since these people are already dead. Let them rest in peace, without the justification of their deaths ripped from their obituaries just so you can get an “I told you so!”

  50. We aren’t really living in the US people! Comon can’t you see!!
    We are all dreaming. The machines found out that one of our computer science majors was hacking away to obtain a red pill and then they used this “Catlyin” to distract him with this “blowjob” nonsense. Meanwhile, getting a blog job from his “girlfriend,” it turns out to be an Agent, Smith.
    Meanwhile we are all still talking about how “USA” plotted an attack againts it’s own soil. WAKE UP PEOPLE!
    TAKE THE RED PILL!!!

  51. College is a place to get an education, grow healthy for your future and career. It is not a place to party, drugs, sex as many stereotype. Don’t blame public policy for not making change. Your part as a student dictates heavily on how the American society will be shaped. You are the people and leaders of tomorrow. You should be focus on your academics and career and responsible citizen than wasting your parent’s money or taxpayers’ money engaging and being in delight of these immoral stuff. How you live your college life is very powerful and can be very provocative and destructive to human nature. Your thoughts shape your actions, your actions shape your who you are, who you are shapes your future. the social and economic norms are in your hands people. And it is up to you to create a healthy society.

  52. everyone love’s blowjobs. everyone. don’t get all worked up about it, it’s not worth wasting your energy.

  53. Dear Caitlyn,

    Please bring back your weekly article. The Mustang Daily hasn’t been the same since it left.

    1. Hey Former Daily Reader,

      For personal reasons, Caitlyn will no longer be writing the sex column. We were bummed when she broke the news to us, but we understand her reasoning. Despite your post name, we hope this doesn’t stop you from reading the Mustang Daily permanently.

      — Leticia, editor-in-chief

        1. Joel,

          You can still meet her as she will still be at Cal Poly. She just don’t be writing the column anymore.

          — Leticia, editor-in-chief

    1. Your God certainly does not exist. Want to know what holds this country back? Religion. Centuries of oppression, and even to this day when evolution is witnessed in nature, these herp-a-derps still believe in this nonsense.

  54. All of you who find this article amusing or good morals should be ashamed of yourselves. Clearly all the rape cases that have been occurring in connection with Cal Poly students should be mistakes you should learn from. However, these kind of articles have blinded you and they all are part of everything of th sex culture of our society. You should be thinking more healthily or these inappropriate content should really be blocked from the internet.

    1. Yea Austin, you’re completely right. This article is truly the reason behind these reported rapes. Clearly.

      …orrrrr a society which takes a much healthier view of sex and openly discusses issues relating to sex is better off. Sex, it happens. People do it. Every day, all around the world. It’s not a dirty little secret. I bet you think it’s better to NOT educate kids on safe sex, contraceptives, condoms, etc. It’s actually better to educate people. You talk about sex with kids and educate them on how to properly use birth control methods, and you prevent unwanted pregnancies. But i digress. This article is about improving your relationship with intimacy. A healthy relationship most often consists of a happy sex life. Not saying that it’s the basis of the relationship, just a part of it.

      Also, you might want to think about taking a course in grammar.

  55. I’ve just recently gotten into it and I still get slightly embarrased to do anything for him. He understands but it makes me feel bad that I’m kinda embarassed to do it for him. I’m 19 and it’s so embarrassing lol

  56. I’m a dad looking at colleges with his daughter. I’m not a christian, have done my share of drugs, and have been in construction for 30 years, so there’s nothing in any of these columns I haven’t heard before. The issue is not this particular column, but that the fact that there’s a sex column in a school sponsored and funded newspaper at all. What a pathetic cop out to push up readership! Obviously Cal Poly doesn’t have a strong enough journalism department to publish articles of enough interest and value without resorting to Murdoch-tabloid tactics.That’s really challenging your students to stretch themselves, investigate, report, and communicate.

    Let’s be honest here: putting detailed sexual information out in in a public forum promotes promiscuity. Cal Poly San Louis Obispo is officially promoting sexual promiscuity plain and simple. Hardly the function of a supposed institution of higher learning. As I recall, I didn’t need any encouragement at that age.

    Information on all aspects of human sexuality is easily available on the web to those interested. Pushing the information on those who simply want to read a school newspaper is grossly out of line. Kind of parallels birth control- by all means supply free condoms etc. to those interested through the school health office. But don’t put free condom dispensers all over the campus in public areas (like news stands.) I’m sure there’s all kinds of highbrow intellectually enlightened arguments for having a sex column in the official school paper- that are all completely devoid of common sense.

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